Today's interview installment comes from Bonny Logsdon Burns of Oysterbed7.com, where she "blends science, scripture and stories of [her] own life to encourage and empower the low sex drive wife and her marriage". In her interview, Bonny expands upon the reason she is motivated to do this and, as she shares her testimony, she also explains:
- 4 reasons she identifies with Jael, who is her favourite woman of the Bible
- What these 4 things can teach us as modern Christian women
Who is your favourite woman of the Bible and why? What would you say that modern women can learn from her?
My favorite woman in the Bible is found in Judges 4- Jael, wife of Heber. She attacked and killed the commanding General of Israel’s enemy (she gave him rest in her tent, but once he was asleep she put a tent spike through his head). This is why:
My marriage changed forever the day my Christian husband’s secret was exposed. He was losing the battle with pornography and sexual compulsion. Within a heartbeat of googling a questionable name in our bank statement, my gentle and quiet spirit wanted to punch him in the gut!
Our path to wholeness was rocky and steep. There was nothing easy about it. But, the path led to a vantage point far above anything we expected.
I identify with Jael because:
She knew exactly who the enemy was: At first, I thought the enemy was my husband and his lust. But, when I figured out that the enemy to our marriage was Satan, the journey took a Christ-like turn. I wanted my husband to overflow with Christ’s power. I had to help him unleash it- not through better sin management- but through grace and forgiveness, and helping him heal.
She mustered up her courage for combat: Jael took the risk of being hurt. You take a risk when you demand holiness for your marriage, which is what I did.
She used quiet determination: Jael wasn’t a screaming lunatic shouting at the top of her lungs. She didn’t use her words at all. She was determined to kill God’s enemy for the sake of all the lives she would save by taking him out of the battle. Likewise, I used quiet stubbornness to get to the root of our problems. I found myself strong enough to withstand hearing where I was at fault for some of our marriage’s dysfunction.
She was a warrioress for God: I want to carry God’s banner and be a warrioress for His perfect design of marriage, which includes sexual integrity.
Please finish the sentence: I am a Christian woman who is...
I am a Christian woman who is feisty and filled with His spirit of power, love, and self-discipline.
Please finish the sentence: I am a Christian woman who is not...
I am a Christian woman who is not afraid anymore.
Any final words of encouragement?
There’s nothing quick and simple about healing a marriage dealing with sexual addiction. Every circumstance and marriage is different. Seek out professional Christian therapists. But, through the power of Christ that lives in us, there is much hope toward climbing that rocky, steep path to a scenic view at the top of the world.