How to overcome good girl syndrome

Anyone who knows me knows that I’m a HUGE Disney fan! The film that started it all? The Little Mermaid

Which I got for my 5th birthday

One of the things that I love about Disney movies is that they typically have deep, inspirational messages that can be applied to everyday life. The Little Mermaid is no exception

In case you’re unfamiliar with the story, here’s an example of that:

Ariel (The Little Mermaid) dreams of being human. When she falls in love with Prince Eric, she goes to Ursula (the sea witch)

She wants the opportunity to kill two birds with one stone:

  1. Become human forever

  2. See Eric again, get him to fall in love with her and seal it with a kiss

Ursula agrees to help Ariel, but there’s a catch: she wants Ariel’s voice as collateral

Also:

  1. Ariel will only have 3 days to find Eric and experience true love’s kiss

  2. Without that kiss, not only will Ariel not get her happily ever after, she’ll be Ursula’s prisoner forever

I know what you’re thinking, “How do mermaids, sea witches and having magic spells broken by true love’s kiss relate to my life, Nina?”

Well, the truth is that we all have Ursulas in our lives- even you, sis

Your Ursula may not be a plus-sized purple octopus with a powerful singing voice like Ariel but…

As a woman, there are plenty of things vying to sabotage your dreams and steal your voice

Most of which have to do with the way that we, as women are socialised

For example, Good Girl Syndrome

Which shows up as:

  • Shrinking ourselves

  • Hiding our light

  • Lack of boundaries

  • Self-sabotage

  • Not fully showing up

  • Fear of being seen as a “bad woman”

This is why it’s important to have a strong why behind your goals

And why at Media Magic (my retreat for business women, experts, coaches and authors who want to uncover a quick and systemised process to pitch the media so that they can get onto more top platforms, be seen as industry experts, and start raking in larger paydays) this is one of the first things that we help you uncover

Because in the moments when Ursula (your inner saboteur) is trying to steal your voice, it will remind you that “a woman’s place is wherever God calls her” (Marshawn Evans Daniels) and help you to keep going until you achieve your goals


PS) At Media Magic, we don't just give you PR strategy- we also deal with the limiting belief systems that are holding you back from success, including Good Girl Syndrome. But don’t just take my word for it:

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